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Let them miss you.
Sometimes, the hardest thing to do is to step back.
We want so badly to be present in people’s lives and show them how much we care. But in trying to hold them close, we lose ourselves, giving too much without noticing when it’s not appreciated.
There is something powerful in pulling away, not out of spite or manipulation, but from a place of self-respect and self-worth. Because you recognize that your presence is a privilege, not a given.
So,
Let them miss you.
I am not talking about trying to make someone chase you. Those games are futile. I want you to reclaim your energy and protect your peace. Sometimes, the best thing you can do for a relationship is to give it a little breathing room. Step back and let them feel the difference when you are not constantly giving.
Absence creates space. Space for reflection. Space for appreciation. And space for longing.
When you constantly make yourself available, it becomes easy for others to take you for granted. Your presence and kindness begin to feel ordinary, expected even. But when you create a little distance, they can feel your absence. And in that absence, they begin to recognize your worth and realize how much light you bring into their world.
