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If It’s Meant for You, It Will Never Have to Be Forced
The most liberating, terrifying truth you’ll ever face.
Most people aren’t ready to hear it:
Everything you’ve ever had to force — every relationship, job, friendship, opportunity, identity — was never yours to begin with.
Read that again.
Let it sink in.
I know what you think: But what if I try harder?
No.
You already know when something isn’t right for you.
Because what’s meant for you won’t require you to become someone you’re not.
And you don’t have to bleed to keep it alive.
The Lie About “Effort”
We’ve been programmed to believe that the harder something is, the more valuable it must be.
- Love is hard work.
- Success requires endless suffering.
- If you’re struggling, it means you care.
Oh, really?
Go back in time:
- Have you ever chased a person who was never into you? How did it end?
- Have you tried to make a career work that sucked the life out of you? How long could you keep up the act?
- How exhausting was holding onto a friendship that required you to tiptoe around someone’s fragile ego?
Yes, meaningful things require effort. But that effort should feel like building something, not desperately trying to keep it from collapsing.
There’s a difference between:
- Nurturing a relationship vs. Forcing someone to love you.
- Overcoming challenges vs. Ignoring warning signs because you don’t want to start over.
- Showing resilience vs. Draining yourself for something that’s rejecting you.
The problem isn’t effort itself. The issue is forcing things that try to break away.
So the question lingers:
Are you building something real, or are you scared to let go of something that’s already gone?
